“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26
As women of faith, we are called to be gracious, wise, and kind. But amid busyness, exhaustion, failure, and frustration, being gracious can be the furthest thing from our minds and the most challenging thing we’ve ever tried to accomplish. The key to gaining and maintaining a gracious attitude toward others is to proactively guard our hearts and seek out that which is able to make us wise and profitable: The Word of God (2 Tim. 3:15-17).
Consistently reading, digesting, and meditating on the Bible is the number one way we are able to abide in Christ (John 15:7), resist evil (Eph. 6:13), and love others as Christ has loved us (John 13:34).
Jesus Christ is the Source of all grace, and He is revealed in Scripture
Growing in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:18) is our only hope of becoming gracious ladies. Without an intimate and abiding relationship with Jesus, we have no hope of living an authentic and sustainable life of giving grace. We cannot pour out what is not first poured into us.
Jesus said in John 5:39 that the Scriptures testify of Him, and He was speaking of the Old Testament! To get an accurate view of our Savior and the grace He so abundantly sheds on us, we must be students of the Bible.
Prayer comes through the Word
Intimate conversation with God, through the Spirit and in the name of Jesus, is another crucial way we stay vitally connected to the Triune Giver of grace. Praying Scripture is a powerful and effective means of both reaching the heart of God and hearing His voice in return.
As we read God’s words to us, we see what He wants from us and for us (John 14:15). This leads us to pray for the strength to carry out His will. As we marinate in the loving-kindness with which He draws us (Jer. 31:3), we are overtaken with gratefulness. This guides us in worship and genuine petition to be more like Him. As we soak in all the promises of God that find their “Yes” in Christ (2 Cor. 1:20), we stand in awe of His amazing grace.
This motivates us to seek His power to resolutely stand on and confidently serve out of the rich supply of His goodness.
When God speaks, He means for us to take His words seriously, and we do Him great honor by having so much confidence in His words that we obey them, and speak them back to Him in prayer, knowing that they will not return unto Him void, but will accomplish what He desires (Is. 55:11).
The Bible equips us for every good work
Second Timothy 3:17 tells us that the Scriptures make us adequate and equipped for every good work. Living a gracious life requires that we immerse ourselves consistently in the ways of a gracious God.
The Word of God searches our hearts
Hebrews 4:12 says that word of God pierces through to the dividing of soul and spirit, and is able to judge our thoughts and intentions. If we are living in an ungracious manner, God uses His word to convict and train us. Without His loving guidance, we are doomed to repeat offenses and harm relationships with others.